>Anger: To Control or To Learn

When the judge or your spouse or your boss says you need to get into an anger management program and change now, the last thing you want to do is spend the next 2 months going to anger management meetings once a week and listen to some guy lecture you on how to straighten out your head. With your marriage or your job on the line - not to mention a possible trip to jail - you want to get started immediately, so you can fix what needs to be fixed and get on with your life.

That is the beauty of our Online Anger Management Class & Online Anger Management Courses - you can get started today!

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Anger Management Class

Immediate Court Ordered Seminar Certificate

Registration Fee Includes:

*Nationally recognized by State & Local Family Courts & Probation Departments

*No Other Fees or Charges - NONE!

*Free Nationally Recognized Certificate of Completion

*Free Best Selling 216 Page Book by noted author James A. Baker (not required to take or finish the online anger class)

*Course written, edited and produced by an experienced Lawyer with extensive Family Court experience & knowledge.

Our powerful online anger management courses cover everything most live classroom anger management courses and anger management seminars cover, plus they add a lot more!

You receive:

Open access to the self-scoring Online Anger Management Classes of your choice.
Immediate access to your certified court ordered anger management class certificate upon completion.
Free Copy of the best selling Anger Management Training Book "The Anger Busting™ Workbook" - 216 pages by noted author James A. (Jim) Baker. The best selling book is NOT necessary to take or complete the anger management class.

For one low price, you will have three (3) months access to your Online Course so that can move at your own pace without being held back by a class-full of people you don't have a thing in common with except the need to get your Anger Certificate and to get your anger problems under control. With our online anger courses, you can cut through the red tape and get right down to business. The sooner you start and the harder you work, the quicker you will begin to make progress and get your life back.

Those who have already completed this practical and powerful online course tell us it not only fulfills their court-mandated anger management requirement, it also REALLY WORKS! They have been able to improve the way they deal with anger, and it has made a big difference in their relationships with their spouses, friends and coworkers. It is also fast and easy to do!

Our Online Anger Busting Anger Management Course is the most thorough and comprehensive programs of its kind. Everything you need to help you begin to CHANGE NOW is included. You can do the lessons from your computer in the comfort and privacy of your own home, accessing the online course material one lesson at a time using passwords we provide for you after you have paid for the and registered for the Online Class. All you have to supply is the courage and discipline to do the lessons, and then faithfully practice what you learn. When you have completed all 24 lessons and quizzes, you will receive a certificate of completion you can present to the court which has been signed by the bestselling author of the Anger Busting Workbook, James A. Baker.

Click here for information on how to register for the Online Anger Busting Anger™ Management Course using a major credit card. The fee is only $65 and signing up is easy so you can get started today! You also receive a free copy of James A. Baker's Best Selling Book "The Anger Busting Workbook" which you will receive within three to four business days after signing up. You do not need the workbook to take the online class or to receive the Online Anger Management Certificate of Completion.

Please Note:

In order to maintain our affordable pricing:

Live support is NOT included with the online courses.
Live support is available at an additional cost but you probably won't need any.
Save time & money by referring to our FAQ for course assistance.

Good luck as you begin your Online Anger Managment road to recovery.

Sincerely,

James A. (Jim) Baker

Anger: To Control or To Learn

Our anger can teach us many things if we choose to learn from it rather than use it as a means of controlling others. This article teaches a powerful anger process for learning rather than controlling.

Many of us will do anything to avoid another's anger, yet may be quick to anger ourselves. Many of us dread another's anger yet continue to use our own anger as a way to control others.

Let's take a deeper look at what generates our anger and how we can learn from it rather than be at the mercy of it.

The feeling anger can come from two different places within us. Anger that comes from an adult, rational place can be called outrage. Outrage is the feeling we have when confronted with injustice. Outrage mobilizes us to take appropriate action when harm is being done to ourselves, others, and the planet. Outrage is a positive emotion in that it moves us to action - to stop crime and violence, clean up the environment, and so on. Outrage comes from a principled place within, a place of integrity, caring and compassion.

Anger can also come from a fearful adolescent place within - from the part of us that fears being wrong, rejected, abandoned, or controlled by others, and feels intensely frustrated in the face of these feelings. This part of us fears failure, embarrassment, humiliation, disrespect, and helplessness over others and outcomes. When these fearful feelings are activated, this adolescent part, not wanting to feel helpless, may move into attacking or blaming anger as a way to attempt to control a person or a situation. Blaming anger is always indicative of some way we are not taking care of ourselves, not taking responsibility for our own feelings and needs. Instead of taking care of ourselves, we blame another for our feelings in an attempt to intimidate another to change so that we will feel safe.

Blaming anger creates many problems in relationships. No one likes to be blamed for another's feelings. No one wants to be intimidated into taking responsibility for another's needs. Blaming anger may generate blaming anger or resistance in the other person, which results in a power struggle. Or, the person at the other end of blaming anger may give in, doing what the angry person wants, but there is always a consequence in the relationship. The compliant person may learn to dislike and fear the angry person and find ways to passively resist or to disengage from the relationship.

When blaming anger comes up, the healthy option is neither to dump it on another in an attempt to control them, nor to squash and repress it. The healthy option is to learn from it.

Our anger at another person or situation has much to teach us regarding personal responsibility for our own feelings and needs. As part of the Inner Bonding process, we offer a three-part anger process that moves you out of feeling like a frustrated victim and into a sense of personal power.

The Anger Process

The Anger Process is a powerful way to release anger, as well as to learn from the source of the anger.

Releasing your anger will work only when your intent in releasing it is to learn about what you are doing that is causing your angry feelings. If you just want to use your anger to blame, control and justify your position, you will stay stuck in your anger. This three-part anger process moves you out of the victim-mode and into open-heartedness.

Imagine that the person you are angry at is sitting in front of you. Let your angry wounded child or adolescent self yell at him or her, saying in detail everything you wish you could actually say. Unleash your anger, pain and resentment until you have nothing more to say. You can scream and cry, pound a pillow, roll up a towel and beat the bed. (The reason you don't tell the person directly is because this kind of cathartic, no-holds-barred "anger dump" would be abusive to them.)

Now ask yourself who this person reminds you of in your past - your mother or father, a grandparent, a sibling? (It may be the same person. That is, you may be mad at your father now, and he is acting just like he did when you were little.) Now let your wounded self yell at the person from the past as thoroughly and energetically as in part one.

Finally, come back into the present and let your angry wounded self do the same thing with you expressing your anger, pain and resentment toward your adult self for your part in the situation or for treating yourself the way the people in parts one and two treated you. This brings the problem home to personal responsibility, opening the door to exploring your own behavior.

By doing the anger process instead of trying to control others with your anger, you de-escalate your frustration while learning about the real issue - how you are not taking care of yourself in the face of whatever another is doing or in the face of a difficult situation.

Whenever anger comes up, you always have the choice to control or to learn.

By Dr. Margaret Paul