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Anger Management Seminars - How to Communicate When You Are In Over Your Head

by James Baker (2011/June)


Anger Management Seminars – How to Communicate When You Are In Over Your Head

All my wife ever does is argue with me. She criticizes everything I do and complains about every choice I make. Oh, yeah, and she says I have an anger program and I should get help. How could I NOT have an anger problem with this (w)itch breathing down my neck all the time? She won't listen to me, she won't do anything I say, she undermines me with the kids, so, YES I GET MAD. I have never hit her, but I do lose my temper and raise my voice and I occasionally call her names. (I always apologize afterwards, for all the good that does.) I can't say anything to her without it turning into a huge fight. Please help me.

Losing It In Long Island

Dear Losing It:

Anger Management Seminars – How to Communicate When You Are In Over Your Head

I often advise people with anger problems to immediately stop speaking whenever they feel an anger episode coming. But there are some situations where just shutting up is not an option, especially at times when your angry behavior patterns have created big problems and now you are in hot water. Shutting up and walking away at this point could even make things worse. You must now begin to say something that will help to heal the situation.

First of all, we need to make a distinction between two kinds of situations that anger addicts create with their spouse and others around them. We call them the being on thin ice and being in over your head. Neither situation is good, but being in over your head definitely calls for more drastic and immediate action. Let's look at that one now.

You know you are in over your head when your spouse or someone else with whom you have an important relationship is overtly, extremely angry with you. Their tone is harsh, their words are critical, and they rarely communicate anything to you except extreme displeasure, open hostility and maybe even serious threats of divorce. Very often, realizing you are in over your head is what finally pushes an anger addict to go to a therapist or other helping professional. He or she has finally run out of tricks, trinkets, promises and, most significantly, the ability to intimidate and control with anger. There is nothing left to do but ask for help, like you are doing now.

If this sounds familiar, then may we make a suggestion? Move these three little words to the very top of your conversation list immediately:
"You Are Right."

Anger Management Seminars – How to Communicate When You Are In Over Your Head

The vast majority of anger addicts get into discussions that lead to arguments that lead to very noisy fights that sometimes lead to trips downtown in a squad car, because they are unwilling to lose. It is just natural to defend yourself and justify your actions. An anger addict's fallback position is to send the message that he or she is right about practically everything. But, by now you ought to be learning that, while there is a God, you are not Him! This can only lead to one obvious conclusion: Sometimes – maybe a lot of the time – you are going to be at least a little bit wrong, and maybe extremely wrong. The more you attempt to dig in and defend your attitudes and actions, or even try to explain your situation, the more your spouse will become convinced you don't really care about their needs and feelings. (That would be because you are sending a clear message that you only care about yourself.) And if this goes on long enough, your spouse may decide that they don't really love you and don't trust you. If you want to nip this whole thing in the bud, just learn to lose by becoming willing to say, "You are right."

Now, on those rare occasions where you might even be completely justified in the opinion you have expressed, are we asking you to go ahead and lie? Not exactly. It's just that arguments are no good for anger addicts, because arguments ALWAYS rev up your anger response. This is a strategy to help you to cool that fire and maintain a constructive communication connection with your spouse. If you are in over your head – or sinking in that direction – it is more important to head off an argument that could get out of control.

Anger Management Seminars – How to Communicate When You Are In Over Your Head

Here is the strategy to use when you are in over your head with your spouse and it is necessary to have a conversation that could become controversial:

  1. Say the phrase, "You are right."
  2. Find some grain of truth in what your spouse is saying, and agree with that, e.g., "Your are right; I did miss that exit last time."
  3. Get your "but" out of the way. Don't say, "You are right, but …(but your stupid brother gave me the wrong set of directions.)"

Don't argue, don't defend, don't explain, don't justify, don't preach, don't utter any other words; just say "you are right." Find some way to agree with your spouse and defuse this conversation as fast as you can. You may have an opportunity to express your opinion later (much later) when you are for sure out of the cold, deep water.

Anger Management Seminars – How to Communicate When You Are In Over Your Head

Also, quit playing tug of war with your spouse. Tug-of-war games are fun at picnics and youth summer camps, but they are deadly for marriages. Trying to drag your spouse through the mud and over to your side to agree with your opinion only leads to rope burns, hurt feelings and broken trust. It HURTS. And it will get you in over your head faster than anything. If you want to beat your anger addiction and protect your relationship, LET GO OF YOUR END OF THE ROPE any time you sense a conflict may be developing. And do it as kindly and cheerfully as you can. It takes two sides to make a tug-of-war, but only one side to end it. Don't be afraid to let go of your end of the rope. It takes a lot of courage and strength to do it, but the sacrifice is worth it. Just let it go a few times and see what happens.


If you struggle with out of control anger, or if you are concerned about someone who does, then you know how difficult it can be to find effective tools and programs to overcome this very destructive problem. Most options are very expensive, require months of therapy, and are still only marginally successful for many people. Why doesn’t someone create anger management lessons that are simple, inexpensive and which provide highly effective anger management strategies for conquering anger problems? Here’s good news – someone has!

Anger Management Seminars Lesson Seminars are available in most US cities and across Canada. The Anger Management Training Institute has developed a comprehensive program of anger management resources built around the principles contained in the highly acclaimed Anger Busting Workbook by by noted bestselling author James A. Baker. These anger management lessons are clear, simple to use, and so effective that even those who have suffered long with problem anger issues begin to change almost immediately. Anger Management Seminars Lesson Seminars are available in most US cities and across Canada is a live class limited to approximately 8 participants. This is designed to meet the needs of those who may have been required by a spouse, an employer or the court to take an anger management class. Our 24-lesson online anger management training class – at $65 for the complete package -- offers remarkable value for those needing an anger management class. This class covers all the important material from the Anger Busting Workbook, plus, students have the advantage of taking the course on their own schedule, working in the privacy of their own home. Participants in either class receive a court ordered anger management certification diploma to present to the court when they finish the class.

We also highly recommend our recently released Anger Busting Audio Series. This professionally produced anger management resource provides a convenient way to gain a deeper understanding of how to handle anger in safe and healthy ways, and you can listen to these powerful anger management lessons at home, in your car, or anywhere you have a CD player.

For helping professionals, our Certified Anger Resolution Therapist class and our Online Certified Anger Resolution Therapist class provide training in the Anger Busting Program. Participants receive guidance in how to use the Anger Busting Workbook, as well as Mr. Baker’s new book, the Anger Busting Workbook Counseling and Training Guide. These courses have been certified by the National Association of Alcohol and Drug Abuse Counselors.

Click here to learn more of our Anger Management Seminars Lesson Seminars are available in most US cities and across Canada, or to register for any of our anger management lessons.

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Our powerful online anger management courses cover everything most live classroom anger management courses and anger management seminars cover, plus they add a lot more! You receive:

  1. Open access to the self-scoring Online Anger Management Classes of your choice.
  2. Immediate access to your certified court ordered anger management class certificate upon completion.
  3. Free Copy of the best selling Anger Management Training Book "The Anger Busting™ Workbook" - 216 pages by noted author James A. (Jim) Baker. The bestselling book is NOT necessary to take or complete the anger management class.

Court Ordered Anger Management Certificate!

All of our Online Anger Management Classes include instant access to your court approved certificate upon completion!

anger mangement certificateAfter each anger management training lesson there is a brief quiz. To pass and move on to the next anger management program lesson, you must get a score of at least 80%. You may try as many times as you like. At the end of the anger management class, there is a test. Once you pass, you will instantly receive a certificate of completion you can print right at your computer and present to the court! Click on the image to the left to enlarge:

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